Feminism - an exaggerated notion and how debate over basic human rights have rather widened the gender gap

Happy International Women's Day everyone.

So, this is indeed a very important day for women across the globe and a major reason for us - women to celebrate this day with our fellow breed. And here across my coffee table I have two girls from North-Eastern India, passed off as "Chikni Chinese" by some sleazy youths. The fear of being alone led them to approach me, and having grasped the incident - which took place a while before I entered the café, I was more than happy to help. After all, this accompany over coffee which they call as 'help', is something which works both ways - one, I get company and second, being an woman I get to support another woman when she needs me ( rather a woman by her side ).

Well, this according to me is the real essence of womanhood - an integral theme of woman's day - Women beside Women. Irrespective of caste, creed and religion. Irrespective of colour and race. Irrespective of nationality.
These sayings are quite popular atleast in India - no two women can be friends and A woman is the greatest enemy of another woman.
          But, in real, a woman can be the best support another woman can have - because a woman can better understand the real needs of other women, even "the deemed complicated psychology of females". And, the compassion she will hold for her will be sans the promise of 'rewards' later. It would be something done - selflessly.

AND, here is where society tags all these girls and ladies who stand together - as would be lesbians or exaggerated feminism advocates. And, they aren't entirely insane or off their track either - many actually take the act of 'support' to such an extent that immaterial of the fact whether it helps the concerned girl or not it does drive the mob crazy with unnecessary publicity. And, at times, their attempts to highlight an 'issue' which is far from the grave issue actually being dealt - the very rights of our men are being jeopardised too. That way, the good men of our society - the real heroes get pissed off, and the men who can be mean by all means get a notion that we girls are all into 'so called nautanki' and this is something they can enjoy watching without a ticket at the inox and turn into an overnight villain who are more popular than heroes these days.

But what about the girls who actually stand beside the other girls without the melodrama. Well, when all you do is - debate about something which should be there as a matter of fact, do you really thing it still retains its essence. We do not debate our right to go to hospital. We do not debate our right to go to school. We do not debate our right to eat our favourite food. Isn't the rights of being an individual with our own sets of strengths and weaknesses is exactly what is guaranteed to us right from our births. And, this individual can be either a man or an woman. Is it a big deal?

But, it is made a big deal - by mere daily doses of debate, by unsolicited publicity. However, do not you feel - the real buzz thing in this entire matter - the actions - of both men and women in this regard of ensuring equality in all respects should be celebrated. Do you not think that women should be encouraged to stand up beside other women not just in #tags but in real world where we actually live and where cases of injustice and discrimination actually happens. And, the women who do this, shouldn't be stereotyped as 'upcoming lesbians', rather their effort should be saluted. And, all these small acts - which doesn't flood twitter or LinkedIn or Facebook and do not come with a publicity #tag shouldn't be ignored as mere stuffs of everyday lives. Every act is heroic and all small gestures of support matters, even if its silent in nature. Just stunts of 'heropanthi' doesn't qualify to be the ones worth talking about.

However, in a diversified country like India, which has more colours to its political front than even the villages here, to stand up beside someone doesn't come without a risk of irking someone else. And, our neta-mantris may not have passed their high-schools even, but have definitely earned a dual-PhD in the subject matter of women. And, whatever the case maybe - from the incidents in Delhi to the grave crimes in the schools of Bangalore and Kolkata, every political party has an 'expert opinion' about the real criminal behind the curtains. It is indeed ironical - these men who deliver excellent elocutions from the stage about protecting us have managed to keep quiet even when they knew the culprit so well. Was saving a girl amongst us less important than painting another man or party - grey. All we women get to hear is this - we couldn't have done anything before the crime happened. Well, one doesn't buy umbrella or rain-coats after being severely drenched in rain. The house is constructed on the norms to make it earth-quake resistant while construction and not after the calamity. Then why is this not the case with us.

And if indeed our case is not worth considering, then why is it that the entire 'so called society' suddenly props out from nowhere to have their opinion in our lives even before something has happened in almost all important times in our lives. Why is it that a woman even after having a senior post like being a lecturer at MIT or being Deputy commissioner of a dept. is still considered incapable in regards o men in many matters. Well, questions are many - answers God knows where.


We are women and we fight for our rights. But what are we really fighting for. Is it the rights or equal salary - which is equal now in almost many organisations in India. Hiring too doesn't discriminate against women on many grounds. Then what really?

Well, we unite by a word - Feminism. And on grounds of it, begin dominating men - at times even undermine the existence of men on this planet. And this includes all those good men too, who are real super-heroes. And we say - its feminism. To seek equality we break equality. We turn to be man-haters or arrogant little ladies whose sole motto is to drive the lives of men all around us to hell. And still say - we are preaching advocating celebrating feminism.

Feminism this way is exaggerated. Actually, we loose the real essence of our fight with all these. We can't deprive someone of - acceptance, what we ourselves have been deprived off. And, by all these, we do not converge at a common point, rather, diverge the gap - existent at least psychologically, even more.

Actually, the world cannot be made a better place if all we do everyday - is to fight for something and try hard to derive publicity for it. It's easy to pose and photoshoot for something but equally difficult to stand up for the cause in real. It's easy to live in a world of #tags. But, debate and ultra-feminism flooded all over social-media, both aren't going to help us in any way. What we need in real in this period of 21st century is action - real actions to stand up beside women and support them truly. And, not piss off men - those men who actually cares for the women, respects and acknowledges their rights, space and spirits. And, a combined effort to show those men who can be grave and publicity seekers - they will not find a scope for that atleast here, and we women will stand together and #fightback not in twitter but in real - may not be by media publicity but by our combined efforts of our own hands, feet and mouth. We are strong - we are united. And we are not 'so called nautankis'. We are real women.

Let womanhood be a universal language equivalent of love- support- strength- unity and courage. That's what you call Happy International Women's Day.

Stay tuned for the next when you will celebrate your 8 hours of sleep on world sleep day. Till then, Stay healthy, Stay happy, Stay safe.