Beyond Age: Excelling in University as a Mature Scholar - Part 1

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Are you someone who is planning to return to university and complete your degree but concerned about being older than your peers? Do you worry about making friends, dealing with social stigma, or excelling in your studies as an older student?

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If these questions have been on your mind, this blog is here to provide you with guidance and support.

Entering university is a transformative experience for anyone, regardless of age. However, for older students, this journey can present a unique set of challenges along with the rewards. Being an older student in a university cohort can be an enriching experience that involves balancing life's responsibilities, adapting to a changing academic landscape, and finding a sense of belonging within a diverse student community.

In this article, we will explore the distinct aspects of being an older student and offer insights on how to navigate this journey successfully. We will primarily focus on students beginning their undergraduate studies at a later stage in life, with subsequent parts covering students pursuing Postgrad and Ph.D. programs later in life.

With that said, let's delve into today's content.

1. A Different Path to Higher Education:

Unlike traditional university students, who typically enroll immediately after high school, older students often follow a more non-linear path to higher education. Many have work experience, families, or other responsibilities that result in a delay in pursuing education beyond school. Sometimes, life situations like teenage pregnancy or being the primary caregiver to seniors at home contribute to these choices, which can, at times, dent one's confidence, particularly when facing admission interviews. It's common to underestimate one's abilities due to this delay.

However, there's no need to fear. For many admission committees, unless a specific age requirement is mentioned for the program, your overall application is considered. Instead of dwelling on the time gap, focus on what life has taught you during this period. If you have work experience, that's incredibly valuable and can enhance your application. If your delay is due to family reasons, be honest about it. It demonstrates your commitment to education despite challenging circumstances as well as your teamwork skills, which can be highly appreciated by faculty members. In academic institutions, labs often face various challenges related to resources and funding. Having dedicated, long-term team members is something many faculty members value, in addition to academic rigor.

So, give yourself credit for choosing to pursue education.

If you've already been selected for your program, go ahead and treat yourself. Your diverse background can be a significant asset, bringing real-world insights to the classroom, enriching discussions, and your future professors have likely recognized this. It's your time to shine among your peers.

2. Balancing Life and Academics: A Juggling Act

As you embark on your academic journey as an older student, one of the primary challenges you'll encounter is finding the delicate balance between the demands of academic life and your existing responsibilities. Unless you've secured a scholarship, it's likely that you'll still be holding onto your job. You might also be overseeing the care of a family member or managing various other commitments. If you've moved abroad for your studies, you could still be the go-to person for important matters back home, such as tax & bill payments and other family affairs.

Effective time management in the midst of these multifaceted responsibilities while maintaining academic excellence should be your top priority. If you find it challenging to create a schedule that accommodates everything, don't hesitate to reach out to your academic counselor for assistance. Establishing open lines of communication with your professors and classmates is crucial. This way, you'll discover unexpected support systems, such as recommendations for reliable babysitters or information about on-campus childcare facilities. You might also receive tips about affordable student-friendly stores, invitations to enriching and budget-conscious events, or access to resources to help you catch up on any missed classes.

Remember, you're not alone on this journey, and your academic community can offer unexpected solutions and support that will make your path as an older student more manageable and rewarding.

3. Navigating Technological Advancements:

The academic landscape has undergone a profound transformation through the integration of technology into education, creating a dynamic and ever-evolving learning environment. As an older student, depending on your age and previous exposure to technology, you may find yourself navigating online learning platforms, digital resources, and virtual collaboration tools with some initial learning challenges. While these advancements can present unique learning challenges, embracing them can significantly enhance your overall educational experience.

Don't be discouraged by any initial difficulties you encounter with technology. Learning to effectively utilize these digital tools is a skill that can be acquired, much like any other. Consider seeking out resources provided by your university, such as technology training workshops or online tutorials. These resources can empower you to harness the full potential of technology in your academic journey. It would be a great skill upgradation for your next employment as well.

You can also try online learning via MOOCs such as Coursera or try the platform of Edureka for learning technical skills which are usually instructor led. And of course, you can be on YouTube as well! So, keep learning. 

However, during this learning journey, if you happen to encounter any tech-savvy classmates who make unwarranted comments about your technical skills, stand your ground with confidence. Remember that while they may excel in the realm of technology, your life experiences have equipped you with valuable real-world lessons and insights that can't be easily replicated by them. So, don't let negative comments affect your confidence. Instead, use them as motivation to further develop your technical skills while sharing your life wisdom with your peers, wherever necessary. Embrace the opportunity to learn from one another; after all, education is a two-way street where everyone brings their unique strengths to the table.  In this way, you contribute to the diverse tapestry of knowledge within your academic community while gaining back significantly from it.

4. Building Connections Across Generations: overcoming stereotypes

In an ideal world, we'd have a vaccine against stereotypes and biases, but unfortunately, they persist. As an older student returning to university, you might encounter these prejudices not only from those in your immediate surroundings but also within the university community - from staff members and even your peers.

Comments like, "Dormitories are meant for young people who are out of their homes for the first time, not for someone older like you!" or insensitive remarks regarding your personal choices, like being a teenage mom, can be disheartening. You might also face challenges when trying to access on-campus facilities for childcare or experience dismissive attitudes from certain individuals.

These experiences can be hurtful and frustrating, but it's essential to remember that university cohorts are typically diverse in terms of age, and older students have the unique opportunity to build connections with peers from various generations. This intergenerational interaction can provide a broader perspective and foster a sense of community.

Moreover, if you're a business owner, you have access to a pool of young talent within your student community. Additionally, you can use this experience to develop and refine your leadership skills, which transcend age barriers. So, rather than feeling disheartened, embrace the opportunity to break stereotypes and pave the way for more inclusive and diverse academic arena. Try to set an excellent example of courage, empathy, curiosity, grit and gumption along with persistence and resilience wherever you can. Who knows - you can be an inspirational role model for many indeed. 

Here's a golden rule: your dignity and self-respect should never be compromised. If you encounter discrimination or bias, stand up for yourself assertively. If a staff member makes you uncomfortable due to your age or status as an older student, request their policies in writing or direct them to relevant regulations.

For any negative behavior within your dormitory or on campus, consider documenting it discreetly, using methods like a spy cam, and report the incident. In the age of social media, you have the ability to garner public support and showcase your resilience.

When it comes to peers who may not want to engage with you because of your age, it's crucial to remember that genuine friendships shouldn't require force. Instead of bending over backward to fit in, use this time to explore your interests, join clubs, and participate in extracurricular activities where you can connect with like-minded individuals who appreciate you for who you are. If someone is particularly insulting you though, keep some cool savage replies handy as well. Stay tuned, as in my upcoming blogs I would discuss some neat ways to savagery as well.

Regarding professors, if someone isn't willing to work with you despite your proven capabilities, don't hesitate to seek alternative opportunities such as research internships or summer school programs elsewhere. Consider exploring professors' profiles beyond your immediate faculty; you may find mentors who appreciate your unique perspective and experiences and are eager to work with you. By navigating these challenges with confidence, you would pave your path to success as an older student in a university cohort.

5. Overcoming Self-Doubt: Embracing Your Unique Strengths

As an older student stepping back into the academic realm, it's not uncommon to grapple with self-doubt, especially when you find yourself among younger classmates. You might question whether you can keep pace with the academic rigors and adapt to the modern learning environment. Thoughts of feeling lonely might trigger you as well.

However, it's essential to recognize that age brings with it a set of unique strengths, qualities that can be powerful assets in your educational journey. These include:

1. Maturity: Life experiences often equates to increased emotional maturity. You've likely encountered and navigated various challenges, giving you a deeper understanding of yourself and the world around you. This emotional intelligence can be invaluable in your interactions with professors and peers, making you a compassionate and empathetic team member.
2. Life Experience: Your journey through life has likely exposed you to a range of situations and perspectives that can enrich classroom discussions. Drawing from real-world experiences, you can offer unique insights and practical applications of academic concepts. This will help you learn and understand concepts better - which you can later tutor your peers as well.  
3. Strong Work Ethic: Older students often exhibit a remarkable work ethic, driven by their understanding of the value of time and commitment. You're less likely to fall into the procrastination traps or distractions that can affect younger students. Your determination and discipline can propel you forward academically. 
4. Balance: Juggling academic pursuits with responsibilities like a job or family can be challenging, but it also equips you with exceptional time management and organizational skills. You understand the importance of balance and prioritization, which can help you excel in your studies. 
5. Decision-Making: Life's experiences have honed your decision-making skills. You're less prone to impulsive choices and distractions, allowing you to stay focused on your academic goals.

In essence, your age positions you as a student who approaches learning with a unique perspective. While some of your younger peers might still be exploring life's intricacies, you've already gained valuable insights. Embrace these strengths and use them to your advantage in the classroom. Recognize that you're not in a race to keep up with others; you're on a personal journey of growth and knowledge acquisition.

So, when moments of self-doubt arise, remember the wealth of wisdom and experience you bring to your academic endeavors. You're not just keeping up; you're thriving in an environment that can benefit tremendously from your presence. Your journey as an older student is a testament to your resilience and commitment to personal growth and knowledge acquisition. Embrace it with confidence, knowing that you possess a unique set of qualities that set you apart in the academic world.

6. Setting Clear Goals and Expectations:

The path of an older student can indeed be strewn with unique challenges, from skepticism about your decision to return to education to the daily juggling act of managing life responsibilities alongside your studies. These hurdles can occasionally take a toll, both mentally and physically. However, it's crucial to remember that as an older student, you possess the resilience and determination to overcome these obstacles.

One powerful tool to navigate this journey successfully is to establish clear academic and career goals. Here's why setting these objectives is essential:

• Motivation: Having a well-defined purpose behind your pursuit of higher education can be a powerful motivator. It reminds you of the reasons you embarked on this journey in the first place. Whether you're aiming to change careers, gain specialized knowledge, or achieve a personal milestone, your goals serve as a beacon, guiding you through challenges. 
• Direction: Clear goals provide you with a roadmap for your academic journey. They act as steppingstones, helping you break down your larger aspirations into manageable, achievable steps. This sense of direction prevents you from feeling overwhelmed and allows you to focus on one milestone at a time. 
• Resilience: As an older student, you've likely encountered life's ups and downs, which have cultivated your resilience. Your defined goals act as a source of inner strength during moments of self-doubt or external challenges. They remind you that your pursuit of education is purposeful and worth the effort. 
• Decision-Making: Your goals serve as a yardstick against which you can measure various academic and career decisions. When faced with choices about courses, extracurricular activities, or career paths, your objectives help you make informed choices aligned with your aspirations.
• Time Management: Knowing your goals enables effective time management. You can allocate your resources—time, energy, and focus—more efficiently, ensuring that you prioritize activities that contribute to your goals. 
• Persistence: The pursuit of higher education, especially as an older student, requires persistence. Your goals keep you committed to the journey, even when faced with setbacks or challenges. They remind you of the long-term benefits you're working towards.

To set clear goals, take time for introspection. Reflect on what you aim to achieve academically and professionally. Consider your passions, interests, and the impact you want to make in your chosen field. Break your goals into short-term and long-term objectives, making them specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound (SMART). Write them down and revisit them regularly to stay on course.

Your journey as an older student is not just about obtaining a degree; it's about realizing your full potential and fulfilling your aspirations. With clear goals in place, you're equipped to navigate the challenges, celebrate the milestones, and ultimately, achieve the success you deserve. So, keep your eyes on the horizon, for your goals are the guiding stars that will lead you to your academic destination.

7. Navigating University Life with a Supportive Network:

In the journey of life, seeking assistance when needed is not a sign of weakness but a testament to your wisdom. As an older student pursuing higher education, you embark on a path that may be uniquely challenging, yet incredibly rewarding. One key lesson to learn is the art of effective communication, including the courage to ask for help when necessary. Fortunately, universities understand the diverse needs of their student body, including older learners, and offer an array of support services to facilitate your academic and personal success.

Here's why utilizing these support systems is essential for your journey:

A.  Academic Guidance: Universities typically provide academic advising services that can be invaluable for older students. Academic advisors can help you navigate the course selection process, discuss degree requirements, and assist in planning your academic journey. They are knowledgeable resources who can provide insights tailored to your specific needs and goals.

B. Emotional Well-being: Pursuing higher education can be emotionally taxing at times. Balancing academic responsibilities with life commitments can lead to stress or feelings of isolation. Universities often offer counseling services, providing a safe space to address emotional challenges, manage stress, and develop strategies for resilience. Seeking professional guidance can help you maintain your mental and emotional well-being.

C. Networking Opportunities: Universities are vibrant communities with diverse student populations. Engaging in networking events and student organizations can help you connect with peers who share your interests and goals. These connections can be a source of support, motivation, and even lifelong friendships.

D. Specialized Resources: Some universities have specific resources catering to older students, such as mature student associations or support groups. These platforms offer a sense of community and an opportunity to share experiences and insights with peers who understand the unique challenges you may face.

E. Financial Aid: Depending on your circumstances, you may be eligible for financial aid, scholarships, or grants designed for older students. These resources can help alleviate financial pressures and make pursuing higher education more accessible.

F. Accommodations: If you have specific needs, such as childcare or disability-related accommodations, universities often have offices dedicated to ensuring equal access and support. These services can make your academic journey more inclusive and manageable.

G. Personal Growth: Embracing support systems is not just about addressing challenges but also about personal growth. Learning to ask for help when needed is a valuable life skill that extends beyond academia. It teaches self-awareness and resilience, qualities that will serve you well in various aspects of your life.

To make the most of these support systems, consider reaching out early in your academic journey. Don't hesitate to connect with academic advisors, counselors, or relevant offices on campus. Your university is invested in your success, and these resources exist to empower you on your educational path. Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength and a step towards achieving your academic and personal goals.

Being an older student in a university cohort is not just about obtaining a degree; it's a personal and intellectual journey that enriches your life in countless ways. While the path may be different from that of your younger peers, the destination holds the same promise of growth, discovery, and self-fulfillment. By embracing the challenges and opportunities that come with age, older students can excel academically, contribute meaningfully to the university community, and inspire others with their determination and wisdom.

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