Beyond Age: Excelling in University as a Mature Scholar - Part 2

Hello and welcome back, my fellow Chai-scholars on the path to mastering higher education!

Are you considering a triumphant return to the hallowed halls of academia to pursue a master's or PhD? If so, you might be pondering the unique challenges and quirks that come with being a more mature student in a cohort of wide-eyed and fresh-faced scholars. Worries about making friends, dealing with potential social stigma, and acing your studies as a seasoned scholar could be taking up valuable real estate in your thoughts. If you're nodding your head in agreement, then this article is your guiding light.

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This is the second part of "Beyond Age: Excelling in University as a Mature Scholar." If you missed the first part, which is exclusively focused on undergrad students, fear not! You can catch up by following the link here.

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In today's lively discussion, we're going to laser-focus on mature students who are either returning or contemplating embarking on the academic odyssey of master's and doctorate studies. So, buckle up, because here we go!

1. Make it About Your Journey, Not Just Grades or the Dreaded Gap

Let's paint a scenario: you're contemplating diving into the world of higher education as a mature scholar. Yet, you find yourself plagued by anxiety regarding your grades from your undergrad days. Or perhaps you're losing sleep over that academic gap in your life - you know, the one where you might have work experience but didn't take the conventional route of immediately transitioning from undergrad to higher education. Maybe life threw you a curveball, and you had family commitments or other compelling reasons that led you to wander off the academic path for a bit. Now, you're plagued by nagging doubts: "Will the selection committee even consider my application? And if they do, how on Earth do I survive The Grand Interview? How do I justify my academic aspirations after having a corporate gig?"

First off, take a deep breath. You're not alone on this journey. Many scholars around the globe have had these very same concerns. So, congrats on easing your nerves a bit; you're in good company. Remember, life isn't a one-size-fits-all situation; it's more like a dazzling array of individual experiences. So, instead of dwelling on those not-so-great undergrad grades or the conspicuous gap you think others won't have, focus on one fundamental question: Why do YOU want to enter this program, and why do YOU think it's going to be a game-changer in your life?

The more you focus on this question, the more prepared and self-assured you'll be when facing that intimidating interview panel. It's all about confidence, my friend. And besides, this exercise will give you a ton of clarity about your decision. As adults, we sometimes fall into the trap of making decisions clouded by our biases, external pressure, or those irresistible marketing campaigns popping up all over our newsfeeds and reels.

So, before you make your decision - full-time, part-time, master's, PhD, advanced courses, or whatever academic adventure awaits you - focus on YOU. Imagine you're the star of your own show, and you're meticulously crafting the screenplay of your life. How do you envision the next chapter of your academic journey unfolding?

2. Will I fit in - Create your own squad.

Fitting in and creating your own squad in a new academic environment can indeed be a nerve-wracking concern. Will you mesh well with your younger peers? Will your professors see your worth beyond your age? These are valid worries, especially for mature students embarking on the academic adventure of a master's or PhD. Particularly women from some countries who develop social perceptions like the ones value in workplace is inversely proportional to their age - might end up feeling terribly insecure among their younger peers. And while PhD students might still have prepared themselves for life events like long lonely hours at their lab, masters students in both taught and research courses might want to explore various networking events or clubs at the university. However, will they be accepted despite their age - remains a pressing concern. So, what should one do? Let's tackle this concern head-on.

a. Hone Timeless Networking Skills:

In the world of academia and beyond, the most cherished folks are often those who can connect with people of all ages. So, think of your academic journey as a quest to master the art of networking. You could befriend the youngest member of your cohort, who might just become your partner-in-crime, both academically and socially.

b. Embrace Technology and Upskill Yourself:

Let's face it; the world has changed since your last university adventure. Online courses, e-books, virtual exams - they're all the rage now. So, it's time to catch up! Not only will this make you a tech-savvy scholar, but it's also a fantastic networking opportunity. Find a study buddy (whether they're in the next dorm or halfway across the world online), and embark on a tech-savvy journey together. From AI to the latest no-code platforms, there's a whole new world to explore.

c. Be a Mentor Extraordinaire:

You've got a treasure chest of life lessons; it's time to share them. Whether it's about corporate life, navigating office politics, your hidden hobby, or personal triumphs over challenges, your experiences are gold. Consider starting your own club at university and being the mentor you wish you had when you were starting out. Sharing your wisdom not only enriches others but solidifies your place in the academic community.

d. Scout for Potential Team Members:

If you're juggling your academic ambitions with your business, here's a golden opportunity. Think about hiring from your academic squad. Why? Well, the traditional hiring process can be like wading through a swamp. But your fellow students? You see their raw, unfiltered selves in the academic world. This is a unique window into their true capabilities and work ethics. Don't be surprised if you end up extending an offer letter to a future star employee!

e. Seek Out Your Academic Soulmates::

If you're starting or returning to your studies in 2023, chances are you're not alone on the seasoned student journey within your university. In fact, you might be pleasantly surprised at how many others share your academic drive. So, here's a nifty trick: head over to your university's official social media accounts. They're like treasure troves of connections waiting to happen.

Start scrolling, clicking, and connecting! You might find fellow scholars in the same boat as you. Reach out online or better yet, plan some in-person meetups. Soon, you'll have a dynamic social circle of like-minded individuals who are ready to conquer the academic world alongside you. 🌟📱🤝

These steps don't just help you fit in; they'll help you stand out and thrive. Remember, your age is your superpower. You bring a wealth of experience and a unique perspective to the academic table. Dive into this adventure with gusto, and watch your network grow while you conquer your master's or PhD program! 🚀📚✨

3. Embrace Your Unique Pace

Let's face it, my fellow academic trailblazers, adjusting to new surroundings, whether it's a different climate, an altered life rhythm, or mastering new skills, might take a bit more time as a seasoned scholar compared to your younger counterparts. But here's the golden rule: don't be too hard on yourself, especially if you encounter the occasional naysayer who calls you "slow." Instead, remind yourself why you're embarking on this journey. It's about crafting your life's screenplay, a narrative that's uniquely yours.

So, even if you find yourself progressing at a pace that's more tortoise than hare when it comes to striking the ideal work-study-life balance, don't let frustration get the best of you. Remember the age-old adage: slow and steady wins the race. 🐢 Here's how to make it work:

a. Set Realistic Goals: 

Take time to define clear, achievable goals for your academic journey. These milestones will serve as your guideposts, keeping you on the path to success without overwhelming you.

b. Prioritize Self-Care: 

Balancing life as a mature student can be challenging. Make self-care a non-negotiable part of your routine. Whether it's a weekly spa day, an hour of reading, or simply a peaceful walk, these moments are vital for your well-being.

c. Connect with University Resources: 

Universities offer an array of support services that can help make your academic journey more manageable. From study groups and tutoring services to counselling, explore the resources available to you.

d. Collaborate with Your Peers: 

Don't hesitate to lean on your fellow students, regardless of their age. Study groups, group projects, and collaborative learning can help you adapt to your academic environment at a comfortable pace. And do not forget about your online counterparts.

e. Incorporate Lifelong Learning: 

Your academic journey is about more than just the degree; it's a transformational process. Embrace the joy of lifelong learning. Explore new interests, attend lectures, and expand your horizons at your own rhythm.

f. Stay Positive: 

If you ever doubt your capabilities or feel overwhelmed, focus on your journey's unique purpose. You're not in a race; you're scripting your own academic adventure. Every step you take brings you closer to your goals.

Remember, life's journey is best savoured when you travel at your own pace, enjoying every moment along the way. So, take one step at a time, and relish the remarkable academic odyssey that awaits. 🎓🌟🐢

4. Conquer Self-Doubt and Imposter Syndrome

My dear mature scholars, if you ever find yourself facing colleagues in your cohort who taunt you because of your age, casting doubts on your abilities, credibility, or the reasons behind your academic pursuit, or perhaps you're dealing with a fellow scholar who insists on pointing out that they started their PhD at 23 while you embarked on this journey at 32, aiming to instill an imposter syndrome within you, there are several steps you can take to overcome this challenge.

a. Self-Reflection and Self-Affirmation: 

Start with some deep introspection. Remind yourself why you chose this path. Your motivations are personal and valid. Inscribe your reasons on your heart, and in moments of self-doubt, recite them like a mantra. Know that your journey is unique and valuable.

b. Speak Up: 

Address the issue directly with your colleagues. Calmly communicate your feelings when you feel taunted or disheartened. Often, people are unaware of the impact of their words. Sharing your thoughts can lead to more understanding and supportive interactions. If that doesn't deter them from their pursuit, either give them a taste of their own medicine when the time arises (because c'mon, you too got to learn to be a baddass when facing this world at times) or, if you have supportive mentors then move on to the next point.

c. Confide in a Mentor or Counselor: 

Seek guidance from a mentor or counselor, someone who can provide a safe space for you to express your concerns and who can offer insights and strategies for dealing with negative influences.

d. Build a Support Network: 

Many a times people bully you assuming you to be alone. Surround yourself with a supportive network of peers, friends, and mentors who appreciate your journey and encourage your growth. Lean on this network for motivation and strength during challenging times. This way, you might even be able to show them - you are not alone and definitely not the one to be messed with!

e. Set Goals and Celebrate Achievements: 

Break your academic journey into manageable goals. Each accomplishment, no matter how small, is a steppingstone towards your larger objective. Celebrate your successes as they come.

f. Focus on Continuous Improvement: 

Embrace a mindset of continuous improvement. Learning is a lifelong journey, and every day presents opportunities to grow and enhance your skills. Concentrate on your personal development rather than comparing yourself to others.

g. Practice Self-Compassion: 

Treat yourself with kindness and compassion. Remember that it's okay to make mistakes and that self-compassion is a vital tool in overcoming self-doubt.

h. Meditation and Mindfulness: 

Incorporate mindfulness and meditation practices into your daily routine. These techniques can help you stay grounded, reduce anxiety, and promote self-confidence.

Your academic journey is a testament to your determination and passion; don't let the opinions of others undermine your path. 🌟🔍

5.  Learn to Let Go

In the intricate web of academic and personal life, there are moments when holding onto the past, preconceived notions, or even doubts can weigh you down. As a seasoned scholar, you've likely accumulated a treasure trove of experiences, both positive and challenging. Learning to let go can be a transformative and liberating practice.

a. Release Academic Baggage: 

It's common for mature students to carry the weight of past academic experiences, whether they be less-than-stellar grades or unfinished degrees. Acknowledge that the past is just that – the past. You've embarked on a new journey, armed with wisdom and determination. Don't let old academic insecurities hinder your progress.

b. Embrace Change: 

Academia is a constantly evolving landscape. Don't be rigid in your approach. Embrace new teaching methods, technologies, and perspectives. Adapting to change not only keeps your mind nimble but also opens doors to exciting opportunities.

c. Prioritize Mental Health: 

Holding onto stress, anxiety, or negative emotions from the past can have a detrimental impact on your mental well-being. Make mental health a priority. Seek counseling or practice stress-reduction techniques. Let go of anything that doesn't contribute positively to your current journey.

d. Release Comparisons: 

Comparing yourself to younger peers or colleagues is a fruitless exercise. Your journey is uniquely yours, and your worth is not determined by others' timelines. Let go of the need to compete or prove yourself to anyone but yourself.

e. Forgive Yourself: 

Academic pursuits can be challenging, and setbacks are a part of the journey. If you stumble, forgive yourself. Let go of self-blame and self-criticism. Instead, focus on learning from your experiences and using them to grow.

f. Cultivate New Perspectives: 

Explore diverse ideas and viewpoints. Challenge your preconceived notions and biases. Open your mind to fresh perspectives, even if they contradict your previous beliefs. Letting go of old ideas can lead to intellectual and personal growth.

g. Clear Clutter: 

In the physical realm, declutter your study space and living area. A clean, organized environment can have a profound impact on your mental clarity and productivity. It's amazing how much mental baggage can be shed by tidying up your physical surroundings.

h. Embrace the Present: 

Focus on the here and now. Your academic journey is a continuous stream of present moments. Don't let ruminations about the past or anxieties about the future steal your present joy. Be fully engaged in your studies and the experiences they bring.

Learning to let go is akin to shedding the excess weight of the past, allowing you to move forward with grace and lightness. It's a valuable skill that enhances your academic and personal life, making room for new knowledge, experiences, and the pure enjoyment of the educational adventure. 🌱💼

In conclusion, embarking on an academic journey as a mature scholar, whether pursuing a master's or a PhD, is a remarkable and transformative endeavor. As you navigate this path, remember that your age is your superpower, and your unique life experiences bring a wealth of wisdom and perspective to the academic table. By focusing on your personal journey, embracing your unique pace, conquering self-doubt, and learning to let go of the past, you can not only excel in your academic pursuits but also enrich your life in ways you may have never imagined.

As you embark on this adventure, always keep in mind that you're not alone in your concerns and aspirations. Many scholars around the world share similar worries and hopes. By connecting with peers, building a support network, and embracing the ever-evolving world of academia, you can not only fit in but also stand out and thrive.

So, take a deep breath, believe in yourself, and remember that this academic journey is yours to shape and savor at your own pace. As you progress, celebrate each milestone, focus on self-compassion, and stay grounded in the present moment. Your academic adventure is a testament to your determination, and it's an opportunity to grow, learn, and create a narrative that's uniquely yours. Embrace the journey, and you'll find yourself conquering your master's or PhD program with grace, confidence, and a deep sense of fulfillment.