5 signs He or She actually loves you

5 signs He or She actually loves you 

and mere body-language is not one of them

Hello and welcome back everyone!! So, I believe most of might have got your valentine or your unique valentine this season. Well, with love in the air and couples & romantic views everywhere, although your heart is cupid struck,  your mind may be cautioning the other way round. The heart might beat with rhythm of love and wish to believe love is blind, the mind might be clouded with doubts. What if there are mysteries covered by a shroud!

Well, a little doubt is always helpful as it keeps you alert and often saves you from being victimised, too much doubt is a sure ingredient to spoil your story just like a dish sprinkled with too much salt. So, you begin to find out ways in the internet ( your best friend and also mine ) to solve your issue.

But, my dear friends - even your concerned special someone might be reading the same article as that of yours. And, with practice over time, they might have mastered the act of portraying body-language suited to signal out their desired message to you. So, merely relying on someone looking (or straying) at you might not be a fool-proof sign that the person is really interested. All of which they might be showing merely as body-language might not portray reality. They might smile and laugh with you, call repeatedly, point their feet in your direction or try to be 'touchy-feely' with you, that might not be their love at all.

So, how do you figure it out! Well, after consulting some trusted experts in the field of human interaction studies, relationship experts and psychologists, I have come up with these magic 5 ways which would let you know if someone is indeed in love with you or not.

1. Consistency in action - The act of body-language displayed might be mastered. The act of maintaining eye - contact might be great. Talking great about you, smiling at you often, trying to be in your close proximity physically, leaning towards you while in communication, all are done with great skill, yielding no scope of doubt at all. Yet, you find something wrong. When and How? Well, the time of such display is important here. Is it that the person displays these acts towards you only under certain circumstances. Say for instance - the person might act as you lover or potential lover within the university campus, yet, while you approach the same person in other places - like a coincidental meeting in public transport or you both happen to visit the same café or restaurant or maybe that you both visit the same departmental store at the same time, he feels nervous and gets anxious in your presence or maybe passes you off as a complete stranger or maybe acts as though 'you and only you' are desperately pursuing him while he is not at all interested in you; BEWARE. The person might be flirting with you with an agenda in mind. Once the agenda is fulfilled, the person would definitely dump you making you feel nothing better than a used can meant to be a trash. And, even worse, he or she might publicly portray you as guilty and responsible for any split or damage to relationship.

2. Not fleeing problems leaving you alone - The biggest test of the strength of any relationship is when either the relationship or the people involved in it passes through some adversity. Both of you, at some point of time in your life, might land into trouble. Or your relationship might be in trouble over differences of opinions. Well, when you are in trouble and the other person simply leaves you alone and goes about enjoying themselves or has a tendency to save their back first even at the expense of making you a scapegoat when the trouble lands on both of you, be sure that this would be something displayed even later in life. And it means the person loves themselves much more than they are even concerned about you. In case of relationship, if the person shows no interest in solving the issues and wishes to complicate it further be sure of this fact that the person loves keeping you under stress. The person doesn't love 'you'.

3. Staying in contact with you  In this fast paced lives of ours, we are always busy. So, its possible that you both might have entirely conflicting schedules to find time to meet, or you might be in different places. If the person actually loves you, there would be a genuine try to keep in touch. Either time will be made for your calls or they might call you however busy they might be. And, these would not flirt-calls or enormous list of messages filling up your inbox rather, calls out of genuine care and concern for your well-being. 

4. Respecting and Accepting you and your uniqueness - "Love transforms an individual", but never overnight or under the dominant influence of another.  If you find someone instead of respecting your choices, preferences and your life in general and accepting you for what you are, is rather constantly comparing you with someone else, or criticizing your choices or trying to undermine your preferences at every step or constantly finding faults with you and stating someone else as better than you in this pretext, trust this fact that the person is not in love with you but, with a macho image the person wants to carry. He or she is pretty insecure about himself or herself, and they can even dump you if their image is challenged ever. A person truly in love with you, will give importance to your concerns and choices, and give priority to your preferences and schedules especially while deciding common stuffs about you.

5. Make time for you and involve ‘not interfere’ in your life -  If the person genuinely loves you, they would surely involve themselves with your life. They would listen to what you have to say. And, despite their involvement, they would allow and encourage space for you, so that your own unique personality shines through. They would engage in your quests, try hard and best to solve it with you, and if nothing at all could be done by them - they would try to make you happy and keep you stress-free. They would always try to be by your side. At least they would show a genuine interest in everything associated with you, instead of merely stating that they are the busiest species on this planet. Yet, they would never ever try to forcibly impose their thoughts and suggestions on you, neither will they embark an ego fight with you over grounds that you didn't accept what the person suggested.

Actually there is a difference between what you show and what you do and engage in. We can sport a fake smile, we can steal glances even if we might not be greatly interested in the person - the case of passengers traveling by a bus where passengers steal glances yet are far from falling in love, we can lean towards a person while in communication, however, we can never continue fake actions. And, half hearted actions and actions out of true love have a difference. So, in order to test if a person is indeed in love with you, you must look out for the actions displayed by the person in various times. Only relying on their body-language can prove disastrous. You might end up landing in a relationship which might shatter you for life.

So, as the rule goes - test and examine whatever you let into your lives.

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Wish you all find your life's true love this Valentines2018. And, Stay safe and happy.